Real talk:
4 months out from debut, writing a 2nd book under contract, dealing w life & kid & day job...it's hard
Writing is hard, generally
But writing against the noise of it all?
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Second book syndrome is real
Imposter syndrome is REAL
And hereâs the thing thatâs easy to forget: it is OK to feel this way.
It doesn't feel like it is, sometimes, because you keep reminding yourself that you've gotten to a place that youâve wanted to get for years. You should be okay. You should be GRATEFUL. You should be ecstatic! You should be waking up happy and thinking âwow I am an AUTHORâ
âWow I followed my dream!â
Your friends/family certainly think so. They say things like âwow this is impressive!â âHow do you even WRITE a book!?â
But they also say: âWhy didnât you answer my text from last week?â âWhy havenât I seen you in a month and a half?â âWhat kind of friend are you, even?â âWhy are you spending so much time on Twitter?â
Itâs nice, but itâs also a lot. They get it, but they dont.
And sometimes you dont even get it. Not really, at least. Sometimes you think to yourself, this isnât BRAIN SURGERY. Get over yourself, Liz. Many people have done things that are MUCH more stressful and much harder than putting a book out. Man, youâre a privileged bitch.
And that makes it all worse, obviously, because then youâre stressed about BEING STRESSED and guilty about it all too! What fun.
So iâm here to tell youâmeâus allâthat it is OKAY TO FEEL HOW YOU FEEL. If youâre feeling anxious â it IS a big deal to have a book out in the world! Itâs a big deal to get feedback from people who you dont even know for the first time in large quantities in your entire life. There are no classes on how to handle other peopleâs views of what you created from scratch. Itâs a total mind fuck.
Iâm not going to give you some trite advice, because honestly Iâve found that sometimes things work and sometimes they dont. Even for myself, doing the same thing, hours apart on the same day.
But the one thingâthe big thingâis that it is OKAY TO FEEL HOW YOU FEEL. And this too will pass.